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Divya's avatar

This is so well written and helpful, it found me on the right day.

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Anna Ray's avatar

I’m so touched to hear that. Sometimes the right words find us exactly when we need them. Thank you for letting me know.

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Mike Jones's avatar

“If you stop seeing the world in terms of what you like or what you dislike and saw things for what they truly are in themselves, you will find a great deal more peace in your life.”

-- Patrick Jane (The Mentalist)

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diane ๑'s avatar

Something that I am learning to accept is that it’s okay to know know what career I’ll end up pursuing in the future. And that if I don’t get into sonography, it’s okay. I’m still young and there so much ahead of me that I don’t know. But that doesn’t have to be scary. I’ve come to learn that sometimes the most beautiful things in life come out of those moments of uncertainty. 💗

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Maya's avatar

“This hurts. I can’t change it. But I can survive it.” Thank you 🙏

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mia's avatar

thank you i really needed to hear this🩵 lately every day feels like a fight with myself over what is, and i feel that accepting that things are the way they are right now will help me find some peace.

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Anna Ray's avatar

I'm really glad it could bring you even a little comfort. Be gentle with yourself...you’re doing your best in a hard season, and that counts for so much. Peace comes slowly, but it’s on its way to you. 💕

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Lisa Achieng’'s avatar

It’s always so encouraging to read on our universal experiences,currently letting go of a dream i have held since i was 7 and this piece made it feel lighter✨✨

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Anna Ray's avatar

That means so much to me. Letting go of a dream, especially one you've carried for so long, is a quiet kind of bravery. I hope you’re being gentle with yourself — it’s okay to mourn what could’ve been while still making space for what’s ahead. ✨

Sending you strength

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ndrae's avatar

Wow that surely is hard! May I ask what dream that was?

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gigi's avatar

this hit me so hard. ive had such a shameful past that i can't stop wishing turned out differently, or that i knew better. this gave me the comfort and peace of knowing what happened happened and just because it happened doesn't mean i'm any less worthy ily

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Jojo Costa's avatar

So beautifully written❤️ Thank you!

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Anna Ray's avatar

I'm so glad you liked it! Thank you for the kind words ❤️

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Luna's avatar

And no one talks about the feeling of radical acceptance. It’s sad and lonely. Its not the kind of emotion where it hurts- like something pierced on your heart, but the wave of sadness where you realize you really love the person even when it’s over.

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Sylvia's avatar

I needed this. I received news very recently that I was rejected from a scholarship after applying for years and one of my closest friends was accepted. I've been wrestling with the feeling you mentioned where it feels like she is living the life I want. I'm still working through all the pain of this because it's been something I've been working towards for a very long time and I now feel quite lost but I appreciate your words and I will keep coming back to them. Thank you❤️

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Anna Ray's avatar

I'm so sorry you're going through this — it’s a particular kind of ache when something you’ve poured years into slips through your fingers, especially when someone close to you gets what you were dreaming of. That pain is real, and it deserves space. Please don’t rush to be okay.

But also: you are not lost, even if it feels that way right now. You’re still on the path — it’s just taken a turn you didn’t see coming. There is still depth and purpose in your journey, and even though it hurts, this moment doesn’t undo all the work, all the heart, or all the potential still in you.

Thank you for sharing something so raw. I'm holding space for you — and I promise, there’s still more life ahead that will surprise you. ❤️

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Sylvia's avatar

Thank you for your kind words❤️

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Dear Preet's avatar

OMG! I CANNOT GET OVER THIS , SUCH A POWERFUL WRITING

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Anna Ray's avatar

I am so glad my words resonated with you, thank you for reading 💕

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arina's avatar

I loved this. I have a performance review coming up tomorrow that I already know will not have content I agree with or like, but this really helped me have a full paradigm shift. I can’t control what she thinks of me, but what I can do is take action in response to it and not tie my self worth on a job.

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Alexa Luria's avatar

Oh I loved this so very much. I discovered acceptance back in 2021 and it absolutely changed my life. I’m not sure I fully accessed radical acceptance until the last year. Your words are so beautiful. Thank you for the share, I deeply relate to so much of what you said. ❤️

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Meg C.'s avatar

Needed this, thank you 💙

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meel's avatar

This is so beautiful. I didn't know I needed this.

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J.T's avatar

The timing of stumbling across this is impeccable.

Thank you.

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Anna Ray's avatar

I'm so glad it found you at the right moment. Thank you for sharing that – it means a lot to me!

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